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Self care Sunday ☀️🎨🫟 making a mess in the garden was the perfect way to end this week for me. Hope you all got a chance to relax, get outside, and grab some oxytocin 💚🌷🌿

#selfcare #sundayfunday #sunshine #painting #artstagram #artlover #therapeutic #therapy #therapist #counselling #counsellor

Self care Sunday ☀️🎨🫟 making a mess in the garden was the perfect way to end this week for me. Hope you all got a chance to relax, get outside, and grab some oxytocin 💚🌷🌿

#selfcare #sundayfunday #sunshine #painting #artstagram #artlover #therapeutic #therapy #therapist #counselling #counsellor

Both myself and Karolina (@mindset_byk) had an unbelievable weekend in London for @david.bedrick's seminar on 'The Unshaming Way'

We had the privilege to sit in a room with very kind hearted and brave people, hear so many rich life stories, and witness so much vulnerability.

We have come away with so much new understanding on how to work in depth with shame and an even greater appreciation for humanistic work!

A huge thank you to @birkbeckuol for facilitating such an amazing event!!

P.S. food in London is to die for!! 😱

#theunshamingway #davidbedrick
#london #weekend #therapy #therapist #psychoeducation #psychology #psychotherapy #vulnerability #brave #shame #counselling #seminar #workshop #learning #spring #sunshine #selfcare

Both myself and Karolina (@mindset_byk) had an unbelievable weekend in London for @david.bedrick's seminar on 'The Unshaming Way'

We had the privilege to sit in a room with very kind hearted and brave people, hear so many rich life stories, and witness so much vulnerability.

We have come away with so much new understanding on how to work in depth with shame and an even greater appreciation for humanistic work!

A huge thank you to @birkbeckuol for facilitating such an amazing event!!

P.S. food in London is to die for!! 😱

#theunshamingway #davidbedrick
#london #weekend #therapy #therapist #psychoeducation #psychology #psychotherapy #vulnerability #brave #shame #counselling #seminar #workshop #learning #spring #sunshine #selfcare

Do you wanna know something I find interesting? 👀

Over time as a therapist you come to notice lots of things continuing to change who you are as a person, but every now and then you have a day like I've had today where it really just hits you in the face and you're a bit like... 'What??? Sorry? Who is this person?' 🤣

So here's my reflections ✍️...

1. I can now pause and enjoy the scenery (like in this first photo 🤪) without wanting to rush off and get to wherever I'm meant to be 🌅

2. I can now sit in a small and busy restaurant on my own without having to pick up my phone as a distraction 🤳🏼📵

3. I can do point 2 with ease... I'm not forcing myself or feeling uncomfortable sitting alone in my own company 👩

4. I can order a salad because I enjoy salad, not because it's the healthiest thing on the menu or has the least calories 🥗

5. I can eat the cake without feeling like I am undoing the 'good' in the salad 🍰

6. I actually enjoy moving my body and can see the benefits in walking other than to track my steps 👣

Just thought I'd share as I feel it is a prime example of how letting go of control can give you so much freedom and joy in life, and how it allows you to be much more present and connected. 🩷

☀️

#therapy #therapist #reflection
#sun #sunshine #spring #essex #connection #healthylifestyle #mindset #mindfulness #selfcompassion #selfcare #counselling #counsellor #anxiety #eating #presence #exercise #walking #steps #brunch #joy #happiness #gratitude

Do you wanna know something I find interesting? 👀

Over time as a therapist you come to notice lots of things continuing to change who you are as a person, but every now and then you have a day like I've had today where it really just hits you in the face and you're a bit like... 'What??? Sorry? Who is this person?' 🤣

So here's my reflections ✍️...

1. I can now pause and enjoy the scenery (like in this first photo 🤪) without wanting to rush off and get to wherever I'm meant to be 🌅

2. I can now sit in a small and busy restaurant on my own without having to pick up my phone as a distraction 🤳🏼📵

3. I can do point 2 with ease... I'm not forcing myself or feeling uncomfortable sitting alone in my own company 👩

4. I can order a salad because I enjoy salad, not because it's the healthiest thing on the menu or has the least calories 🥗

5. I can eat the cake without feeling like I am undoing the 'good' in the salad 🍰

6. I actually enjoy moving my body and can see the benefits in walking other than to track my steps 👣

Just thought I'd share as I feel it is a prime example of how letting go of control can give you so much freedom and joy in life, and how it allows you to be much more present and connected. 🩷

☀️

#therapy #therapist #reflection
#sun #sunshine #spring #essex #connection #healthylifestyle #mindset #mindfulness #selfcompassion #selfcare #counselling #counsellor #anxiety #eating #presence #exercise #walking #steps #brunch #joy #happiness #gratitude

I would imagine all the therapists here are nodding their heads along with me 😉

Even though I can say this and truly mean it, and even though you may already somewhat believe it... I appreciate it is extremely difficult to be completely vulnerable, real and honest with someone (and yourselves!)... and even if logically you know you'll be accepted, managing the feelings/felt experience of not being too much can be an entirely different thing!

So if you ramble in session, go off on tangents, say things and then instantly regret them, avoid certain topics, or fear being too honest, just know we're fully with you. We're not judging you, most often were relating to you or in awe that you're brave enough to 'go there'. We're routing for you the entire way.

And if you're quite reserved and still getting to grips with therapy, give yourself time and a pat on the back for being there in the first place - as much as we aim for it to feel safe and cosy, we know it's not the easiest place to be!!

Where are you on your therapy journey and how do you experience it? 💕

#therapy
#therapeuticrelationship
#relationships #attachment #attachmentstyles #attachmenttheory #vulnerability #brave #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment #bpd #mentalhealth #counselling #psychotherapy #trauma #anxiety #selfesteem #confidence #counsellor #healing #growth #personalgrowth #perserverence #lifegoals #development

I would imagine all the therapists here are nodding their heads along with me 😉

Even though I can say this and truly mean it, and even though you may already somewhat believe it... I appreciate it is extremely difficult to be completely vulnerable, real and honest with someone (and yourselves!)... and even if logically you know you'll be accepted, managing the feelings/felt experience of not being too much can be an entirely different thing!

So if you ramble in session, go off on tangents, say things and then instantly regret them, avoid certain topics, or fear being too honest, just know we're fully with you. We're not judging you, most often were relating to you or in awe that you're brave enough to 'go there'. We're routing for you the entire way.

And if you're quite reserved and still getting to grips with therapy, give yourself time and a pat on the back for being there in the first place - as much as we aim for it to feel safe and cosy, we know it's not the easiest place to be!!

Where are you on your therapy journey and how do you experience it? 💕

#therapy
#therapeuticrelationship
#relationships #attachment #attachmentstyles #attachmenttheory #vulnerability #brave #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment #bpd #mentalhealth #counselling #psychotherapy #trauma #anxiety #selfesteem #confidence #counsellor #healing #growth #personalgrowth #perserverence #lifegoals #development

I hit a milestone today! 🎉 over 1000 hours experience as a therapist 🥳

Feeling very humbled and privileged to have been taken this far already. What a lovely opportunity for me to reflect on all the clients (past, present and returning) who have touched my life and how far we've come on our journeys together 💝

Incredible 🥰

For the other therapists out there... Is this the point that I actually stop counting? 😂 When did you lose count? Do you ever stop?!?

#therapist #psychology #psychotherapy #counselling #achievement #milestone #celebrate #pride #joy #love #dreams

I hit a milestone today! 🎉 over 1000 hours experience as a therapist 🥳

Feeling very humbled and privileged to have been taken this far already. What a lovely opportunity for me to reflect on all the clients (past, present and returning) who have touched my life and how far we've come on our journeys together 💝

Incredible 🥰

For the other therapists out there... Is this the point that I actually stop counting? 😂 When did you lose count? Do you ever stop?!?

#therapist #psychology #psychotherapy #counselling #achievement #milestone #celebrate #pride #joy #love #dreams

So this week I turned the big 3️⃣0️⃣ 🎈

And if we're keeping it real (which we always do over here 🤪) it brought up a lot of different feelings for me...

So here's some reflections from reaching another milestone...

1. Genuine gratitude and excitement for being here for another spin 🌎
2. Love for all those around me who showed how much they care for me and recognizing the privilege I have to say this 💘
3. Excitement to see a few of my clients on the day (even though they had no idea... for obvious reasons 😂)
4. Pure happiness to get a new cuddly cow called Ethel 🐮
5. Even more happiness to be treated to a new tattoo matching with my best friend 💕
6. Feelings of fear for the future even though it's looking pretty bright ✨
7. Feelings of OMG I'm a 'serious' adult and I have no excuses for falling short anymore (even though this is total you know what 💩)
8. A bit of confusion and disorientation on the day trying to work out how I feel about it... And then realizing it's okay even in my position to not be very clear on the matter 🤷🏻

How did you feel when you turned 30???

I'd love to know! 💕

#turning30 #thebig30 #30yearsold
#therapy #therapist #counselling #counsellor #cows #cowsmakemehappy #newtattoo #starsigns #libra #saggitarius #gratitude #friendship #love #milestone #psychology #psychotherapy #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #appreciation #birthday #emotions #highlandcow #future #life #mindset #awareness

So this week I turned the big 3️⃣0️⃣ 🎈

And if we're keeping it real (which we always do over here 🤪) it brought up a lot of different feelings for me...

So here's some reflections from reaching another milestone...

1. Genuine gratitude and excitement for being here for another spin 🌎
2. Love for all those around me who showed how much they care for me and recognizing the privilege I have to say this 💘
3. Excitement to see a few of my clients on the day (even though they had no idea... for obvious reasons 😂)
4. Pure happiness to get a new cuddly cow called Ethel 🐮
5. Even more happiness to be treated to a new tattoo matching with my best friend 💕
6. Feelings of fear for the future even though it's looking pretty bright ✨
7. Feelings of OMG I'm a 'serious' adult and I have no excuses for falling short anymore (even though this is total you know what 💩)
8. A bit of confusion and disorientation on the day trying to work out how I feel about it... And then realizing it's okay even in my position to not be very clear on the matter 🤷🏻

How did you feel when you turned 30???

I'd love to know! 💕

#turning30 #thebig30 #30yearsold
#therapy #therapist #counselling #counsellor #cows #cowsmakemehappy #newtattoo #starsigns #libra #saggitarius #gratitude #friendship #love #milestone #psychology #psychotherapy #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #appreciation #birthday #emotions #highlandcow #future #life #mindset #awareness

So this came through the post yesterday 🤩

Would like to post a HUGE THANK YOU to the lovely lady who runs this incredible course, Jo Oxley @attachmentrus from Optima Health Services.

I don't know Jo personally, I am just so pleased with my personal and professional development that I now want to share her course EVERYWHERE because I truly believe all therapists should enquire about it. This course quite literally changed me as a practitioner entirely in the sense of my way of practice, my way of thinking, and what I can offer of myself to my clients.

She has truly been the best tutor I've had across my studies. She was so thorough, considerate, and the attention to detail in this course blew my mind. I gained and learned so, so, so much and I wish I could do it all over again!

Thanks Jo! 💕 ...still have my eyes out for level 6 👀

#attachment #attachmenttheory #attachmentstyles #psychotherapy #therapy #counselling #mentalhealth

So this came through the post yesterday 🤩

Would like to post a HUGE THANK YOU to the lovely lady who runs this incredible course, Jo Oxley @attachmentrus from Optima Health Services.

I don't know Jo personally, I am just so pleased with my personal and professional development that I now want to share her course EVERYWHERE because I truly believe all therapists should enquire about it. This course quite literally changed me as a practitioner entirely in the sense of my way of practice, my way of thinking, and what I can offer of myself to my clients.

She has truly been the best tutor I've had across my studies. She was so thorough, considerate, and the attention to detail in this course blew my mind. I gained and learned so, so, so much and I wish I could do it all over again!

Thanks Jo! 💕 ...still have my eyes out for level 6 👀

#attachment #attachmenttheory #attachmentstyles #psychotherapy #therapy #counselling #mentalhealth

UPDATE ⭐ ✨ ⬇️

I know I promised I'd post more in the summer break 🌞 (yeah, right 😂 not making that mistake again!) - I decided to procrastinate for WEEKS instead because I have been really busy with my practice (eternally grateful for that! 💕) and therefore it's not just been feasible for me to show the regular love to my Instagram 🙁 so... Here's my more realistic promise to pop up when I can... And to take a leaf 🌿 out of my own book and take the bloody pressure off of myself to keep on top of things over here... 🫠

But I have noticed I've really missed connecting with you all! So if I do manage to pop up on your feed and you see my post please feel welcome to message and say hi! Or pop a comment below 👋🏻 😊

Thanks for everyone who's stuck around!! 🫶🏻

#mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #therapy #therapist #counsellor #counselling #selfawareness #selfworth #selflove #selfcare #mindfulness #mindset #procrastination #selfhelp #mentalhealthawareness

UPDATE ⭐ ✨ ⬇️

I know I promised I'd post more in the summer break 🌞 (yeah, right 😂 not making that mistake again!) - I decided to procrastinate for WEEKS instead because I have been really busy with my practice (eternally grateful for that! 💕) and therefore it's not just been feasible for me to show the regular love to my Instagram 🙁 so... Here's my more realistic promise to pop up when I can... And to take a leaf 🌿 out of my own book and take the bloody pressure off of myself to keep on top of things over here... 🫠

But I have noticed I've really missed connecting with you all! So if I do manage to pop up on your feed and you see my post please feel welcome to message and say hi! Or pop a comment below 👋🏻 😊

Thanks for everyone who's stuck around!! 🫶🏻

#mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #therapy #therapist #counsellor #counselling #selfawareness #selfworth #selflove #selfcare #mindfulness #mindset #procrastination #selfhelp #mentalhealthawareness

This is something that more and more of my inspiring clients are getting into lately and I'm loving it!

If you want to get into journalling but something keeps getting in the way my tip is to bullet journal instead! Sometimes if you're feeling overwhelmed journalling can feel like a task moreso than a release, however if you bullet point what's in your mind it's a great starting point and still does the trick! ✍️

5 benefits to therapeutic journalling:
1. It can support your route to self discovery
2. Be a way to gain awareness of your experiences
3. A way to release built up tension and stress
4. A tool for healing and growth
5. Reduce overwhelm and calm your anxiety

Let me know what you think of journalling below 👇 do you find it useful? Have you tried it before?

💕

#therapy #therapist #therapeutic #journalling #journal #journalinspiration #mindset #braindump #anxiety #anxious #stressrelief #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #psychotherapy #counselling #counsellor #selflove #selfcare #hope #dreams #selfawareness #personaldevelopment #personalgrowth #emotions #growth #regulation #nervoussystem

This is something that more and more of my inspiring clients are getting into lately and I'm loving it!

If you want to get into journalling but something keeps getting in the way my tip is to bullet journal instead! Sometimes if you're feeling overwhelmed journalling can feel like a task moreso than a release, however if you bullet point what's in your mind it's a great starting point and still does the trick! ✍️

5 benefits to therapeutic journalling:
1. It can support your route to self discovery
2. Be a way to gain awareness of your experiences
3. A way to release built up tension and stress
4. A tool for healing and growth
5. Reduce overwhelm and calm your anxiety

Let me know what you think of journalling below 👇 do you find it useful? Have you tried it before?

💕

#therapy #therapist #therapeutic #journalling #journal #journalinspiration #mindset #braindump #anxiety #anxious #stressrelief #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #psychotherapy #counselling #counsellor #selflove #selfcare #hope #dreams #selfawareness #personaldevelopment #personalgrowth #emotions #growth #regulation #nervoussystem

A day off from being a therapist! ☀️ 📽️ 💕

Hello hello 👋 lovely people of Instagram ❤️... I'm sure you haven't noticed but I haven't posted on here in a looong time by my standards! And I thought it was about time I did, finding the time to do so has been tricky lately as I've been mega mega mega busy with work related stuff 🧠

So instead of trying to think of something cool to post like reflections or psych-ed (although if you don't unfollow me there will be more of this coming in the summer 🌞🤞) I thought I'd share a rare day off! I've had my Wednesday's free both this week and last week... Last week I got to go out for lunch with a good friend of mine who I hadn't seen since December 😳💀 and this week I managed to...

1. Get a breakfast muffin 🥞 🍳
2. Go to the cinema to see Inside Out 2 which I am beaming about, I thought it was such a fantastic film and a spot on portrayal of anxiety so if you haven't seen it yet GO GO GO! 🏃‍♀️
3. Lunch at Wagamamas 🍜😛
4. Pick up some eyeliner cos I'm on my last knockings 👀 👁️
5. Go on the hunt for Joshua Fletcher's new book but sadly no luck so will order on Amazon 📬
6. Bump into a family of swans 🦢 💕
7. Visit my babies 🐮 and one licked my hand ahhhhh!! ❤️
8. Coffee break ☕
9. Workout but was so knackered I forgot to take pic proof of the sweaty mess 😂
10. Make a Instagram catch up post and watch Supernatural prepping for back to work tomorrow 🖥️ 🛋️

To all my Instagram friends who have stuck around I hope you are well! I pop in and out of here from time to time and watch all your stories and see some posts - as said above, I will be more active next month! 🤞

See you again soooon 💕

#therapy #therapist #dayinthelife #summer #sun #outing #dayoff #psychotherapy #insideout #emotions #anxiety #selflove #selfcare #workout #fitness #counselling #anxious #joy #bookstagram #selfworth #coffeetime #newbook #happiness #wagamama

A day off from being a therapist! ☀️ 📽️ 💕

Hello hello 👋 lovely people of Instagram ❤️... I'm sure you haven't noticed but I haven't posted on here in a looong time by my standards! And I thought it was about time I did, finding the time to do so has been tricky lately as I've been mega mega mega busy with work related stuff 🧠

So instead of trying to think of something cool to post like reflections or psych-ed (although if you don't unfollow me there will be more of this coming in the summer 🌞🤞) I thought I'd share a rare day off! I've had my Wednesday's free both this week and last week... Last week I got to go out for lunch with a good friend of mine who I hadn't seen since December 😳💀 and this week I managed to...

1. Get a breakfast muffin 🥞 🍳
2. Go to the cinema to see Inside Out 2 which I am beaming about, I thought it was such a fantastic film and a spot on portrayal of anxiety so if you haven't seen it yet GO GO GO! 🏃‍♀️
3. Lunch at Wagamamas 🍜😛
4. Pick up some eyeliner cos I'm on my last knockings 👀 👁️
5. Go on the hunt for Joshua Fletcher's new book but sadly no luck so will order on Amazon 📬
6. Bump into a family of swans 🦢 💕
7. Visit my babies 🐮 and one licked my hand ahhhhh!! ❤️
8. Coffee break ☕
9. Workout but was so knackered I forgot to take pic proof of the sweaty mess 😂
10. Make a Instagram catch up post and watch Supernatural prepping for back to work tomorrow 🖥️ 🛋️

To all my Instagram friends who have stuck around I hope you are well! I pop in and out of here from time to time and watch all your stories and see some posts - as said above, I will be more active next month! 🤞

See you again soooon 💕

#therapy #therapist #dayinthelife #summer #sun #outing #dayoff #psychotherapy #insideout #emotions #anxiety #selflove #selfcare #workout #fitness #counselling #anxious #joy #bookstagram #selfworth #coffeetime #newbook #happiness #wagamama

A meaningful compliment is delivered when we focus our words on the character and not the exterior shell of their being.

We are all so much more than what we look like and what can be seen by others. Our materialistic value.

We share ourselves through our creativity, our drive and our passions. Our dreams, our genuineness, our truth. Our voices. The stuff that holds meaning, the stuff that matters.

Let's choose to speak wiser. ❤️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #myvoice #selfworth #selflove #selfcare #boundaries #innerpeace #innerchild #healing #passion #lovelife #sharingiscaring #anxiety #anxious #thoughts #wisdom #growth #grateful #gratitude #value #truth #meaning

A meaningful compliment is delivered when we focus our words on the character and not the exterior shell of their being.

We are all so much more than what we look like and what can be seen by others. Our materialistic value.

We share ourselves through our creativity, our drive and our passions. Our dreams, our genuineness, our truth. Our voices. The stuff that holds meaning, the stuff that matters.

Let's choose to speak wiser. ❤️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #myvoice #selfworth #selflove #selfcare #boundaries #innerpeace #innerchild #healing #passion #lovelife #sharingiscaring #anxiety #anxious #thoughts #wisdom #growth #grateful #gratitude #value #truth #meaning

10 things to throw away for your mental health: 👇

🚮 1. Clothes that no longer fit 👗👔👖
🚮 2. Keepsakes from people we don't like 💍🎁
🚮 3. Things that hold bad memories 🧠
🚮 4. The words that hurt us 🗣️
🚮 5. Negative judgement of ourselves
🚮 6. The critic in our heads 🙉
🚮 7. Someone else's thoughts and beliefs 💭
🚮 8. False assumptions 🤐🚫
🚮 9. Responsibility for other people's problems 🧔
🚮 10. The one negative comment a stranger made 5 years ago ⌚⏳

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #mind #selflove #selfcare #selfhelp #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #growth #essex

10 things to throw away for your mental health: 👇

🚮 1. Clothes that no longer fit 👗👔👖
🚮 2. Keepsakes from people we don't like 💍🎁
🚮 3. Things that hold bad memories 🧠
🚮 4. The words that hurt us 🗣️
🚮 5. Negative judgement of ourselves
🚮 6. The critic in our heads 🙉
🚮 7. Someone else's thoughts and beliefs 💭
🚮 8. False assumptions 🤐🚫
🚮 9. Responsibility for other people's problems 🧔
🚮 10. The one negative comment a stranger made 5 years ago ⌚⏳

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #mind #selflove #selfcare #selfhelp #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #growth #essex

My advice? Pretty simple... ↙️

Remind yourself that not everyone can show up for you the way that you want and as much as that hurts, it's okay. We can't make people change but we can decide the power it holds over us. 🌟

When someone dismisses your experience find someone else who can show up for you and offer you the validation and understanding that you need. 🫂

This could be...
👨‍👧‍👦 A trusted family member
🧑‍🏫 A teacher
🤝 A good friend
🧑‍🦰 A therapist
⚽ Your football coach

And if that feels too steep...
🐶 A pet 🐱 or 📝 a diary 📚 could be a good starting point!

❤️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #selflove #selfcare #selfesteem #selfworth #anxiety #confidence #mindfulness #bekind #quote #goals #motivation #kindness #support #healing #growth #wellbeing

My advice? Pretty simple... ↙️

Remind yourself that not everyone can show up for you the way that you want and as much as that hurts, it's okay. We can't make people change but we can decide the power it holds over us. 🌟

When someone dismisses your experience find someone else who can show up for you and offer you the validation and understanding that you need. 🫂

This could be...
👨‍👧‍👦 A trusted family member
🧑‍🏫 A teacher
🤝 A good friend
🧑‍🦰 A therapist
⚽ Your football coach

And if that feels too steep...
🐶 A pet 🐱 or 📝 a diary 📚 could be a good starting point!

❤️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #selflove #selfcare #selfesteem #selfworth #anxiety #confidence #mindfulness #bekind #quote #goals #motivation #kindness #support #healing #growth #wellbeing

What do you hide from the world? What parts of you bring you shame?

Quite often we reject the parts of ourselves that we don't like, or fear, or don't understand, and believe that by ignoring it it'll eventually go away... but let me ask you if this has worked so far?

I bet it hasn't. Surpressing ourselves, the parts we are uncomfortable with, our difficult/scary emotions, our quirks, and our perceived faults doesn't banish them out of existence. They begin to show up in other ways such as through our nervous system and/or, for example, symptoms of anxiety and depression.

We don't have to particularly like these parts or love them even, but giving them space to exist and to be acknowledged can sometimes be what you need to stop seeking external reassurance that you are enough.

When we can hold space for the hidden parts of ourselves we can begin to learn who we truly are, and then we don't need to try and figure it out through other people showing us. You won't need to seek recognition, validity, or acceptance from others because you will already hold that within yourself.

Get curious 😉❤️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #selflove #selfcare #selfesteem #selfworth #anxiety #confidence #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #healing #journey #acceptance #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #loveyourself #hope #journalling #therapytools

What do you hide from the world? What parts of you bring you shame?

Quite often we reject the parts of ourselves that we don't like, or fear, or don't understand, and believe that by ignoring it it'll eventually go away... but let me ask you if this has worked so far?

I bet it hasn't. Surpressing ourselves, the parts we are uncomfortable with, our difficult/scary emotions, our quirks, and our perceived faults doesn't banish them out of existence. They begin to show up in other ways such as through our nervous system and/or, for example, symptoms of anxiety and depression.

We don't have to particularly like these parts or love them even, but giving them space to exist and to be acknowledged can sometimes be what you need to stop seeking external reassurance that you are enough.

When we can hold space for the hidden parts of ourselves we can begin to learn who we truly are, and then we don't need to try and figure it out through other people showing us. You won't need to seek recognition, validity, or acceptance from others because you will already hold that within yourself.

Get curious 😉❤️

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One thing you need to know about me is that I LOVE a spider gram 😎

If you give this a go let me know how you get on! 💖

📝

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One thing you need to know about me is that I LOVE a spider gram 😎

If you give this a go let me know how you get on! 💖

📝

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #healing #journalling #relationshipgoals #therapytools #lifeskills #attachment

10 Therapeutic Journaling Prompts 📝

1. What are things I want to say yes to?
2. What are things I want to say no to?
3. What have I recently been successful at?
4. What helps me to feel inspired?
5. What parts of my life am I grateful for?
6. What is holding me back from achieving what I want?
7. What does self compassion mean to me?
8. What are things I wish people understood about me?
9. How can I be kinder to myself when I am experiencing emotional pain?
10. List 10 things that make me happy

📃💕

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10 Therapeutic Journaling Prompts 📝

1. What are things I want to say yes to?
2. What are things I want to say no to?
3. What have I recently been successful at?
4. What helps me to feel inspired?
5. What parts of my life am I grateful for?
6. What is holding me back from achieving what I want?
7. What does self compassion mean to me?
8. What are things I wish people understood about me?
9. How can I be kinder to myself when I am experiencing emotional pain?
10. List 10 things that make me happy

📃💕

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #selflove #selfcare #selfesteem #selfworth #anxiety #boundaries #confidence #mindfulness #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #healing #journey #breakinghabits #patterns #journal #journalling #essex

Personal victories we do not celebrate enough: 👇🎉

🥇1. Managing to get through a tough day
🥇2. Doing something that is out of your comfort zone
🥇3. Trying again after failing the first time
🥇4. Recognising and ending a toxic relationship
🥇5. Leaving home when it feels like the only safe place to be
🥇6. Maintaining your boundaries
🥇7. Slowing down without feeling lazy
🥇8. Beginning to keep up with your personal hygiene
🥇9. Dating again after a break up
🥇10. Working on self development

If you have managed any of these or something else I haven't included here I am so proud of you! ❤️ I hope you are proud of you, too! 🎉

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #selflove #selfcare #selfesteem #selfworth #anxiety #confidence #mindfulness #kindness #achieve #believe #winning #goalsetting #goals #victory #mentalhealthmatters #essex #boundaries #selfdevelopment #toxicrelationships #relationships #comfort #soothing #safety

Personal victories we do not celebrate enough: 👇🎉

🥇1. Managing to get through a tough day
🥇2. Doing something that is out of your comfort zone
🥇3. Trying again after failing the first time
🥇4. Recognising and ending a toxic relationship
🥇5. Leaving home when it feels like the only safe place to be
🥇6. Maintaining your boundaries
🥇7. Slowing down without feeling lazy
🥇8. Beginning to keep up with your personal hygiene
🥇9. Dating again after a break up
🥇10. Working on self development

If you have managed any of these or something else I haven't included here I am so proud of you! ❤️ I hope you are proud of you, too! 🎉

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #selflove #selfcare #selfesteem #selfworth #anxiety #confidence #mindfulness #kindness #achieve #believe #winning #goalsetting #goals #victory #mentalhealthmatters #essex #boundaries #selfdevelopment #toxicrelationships #relationships #comfort #soothing #safety

When you're on your most desperate thought...

When your days are too tough 🌪️
When your nights are too long 🌙
When you feel like the world wants to swallow you up whole 🕳️
When you can't think 💭
When you can't breathe 💨
When you just want it to end...

Just keep swimming 🦆

It will get easier, lighter and brighter once again 🌞 one step at a time... 👣

You are more resilient than you think. You got this 💛

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #selflove #selfcare #mindfulness #wellbeing #kindness #process #support #healing #growth #anxiety #anxious #awareness #mentalhealthmatters #yougotthis #youmatter #bekind #essex #selfesteem #confidence

When you're on your most desperate thought...

When your days are too tough 🌪️
When your nights are too long 🌙
When you feel like the world wants to swallow you up whole 🕳️
When you can't think 💭
When you can't breathe 💨
When you just want it to end...

Just keep swimming 🦆

It will get easier, lighter and brighter once again 🌞 one step at a time... 👣

You are more resilient than you think. You got this 💛

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #selflove #selfcare #mindfulness #wellbeing #kindness #process #support #healing #growth #anxiety #anxious #awareness #mentalhealthmatters #yougotthis #youmatter #bekind #essex #selfesteem #confidence

❌ Phrases To: Set Boundaries During Phone Calls 📱👇

📞 "I only have 'x' minutes free for this call right now, is that enough time or shall we hold off until later?"
📞 "this conversation is making me uncomfortable and I'm not willing to discuss this with you"
📞 "I think it's great that you're so open to sharing and I would love to hear you but I haven't got the mental space to take this on today"
📞 "when you speak to me this way I do not feel respected, I need you to change that"
📞 "I'd love to support you but now is not a good time for me"
📞 "I've noticed we are not able to compromise so I think it will be best to end the call"

How do you feel about setting boundaries? 🚫

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❌ Phrases To: Set Boundaries During Phone Calls 📱👇

📞 "I only have 'x' minutes free for this call right now, is that enough time or shall we hold off until later?"
📞 "this conversation is making me uncomfortable and I'm not willing to discuss this with you"
📞 "I think it's great that you're so open to sharing and I would love to hear you but I haven't got the mental space to take this on today"
📞 "when you speak to me this way I do not feel respected, I need you to change that"
📞 "I'd love to support you but now is not a good time for me"
📞 "I've noticed we are not able to compromise so I think it will be best to end the call"

How do you feel about setting boundaries? 🚫

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #selflove #selfcare #selfesteem #selfworth #anxiety #boundaries #confidence #mindfulness #bekind #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #essex

- To do anything really!

✍️ Write a list of all the things you could 'never' do and the answer as to why it's not possible.

If your list consists of:
📃 Because I'm not good enough
📃 Because I don't have what it takes
📃 Because some things don't change
📃 Because it will never work out
📃 Because I will fail

...then I invite you to get more curious as to where these thoughts come from. Sometimes we sabotage ourselves with our own self doubt and we never get the chance to see our true potential.

Ask yourself:
💭 What feels at risk?
💭 What proof do I need?
💭 When will I feel worthy?
💭 How can I take the chance?
💭 So what if I fail?!?
💭 What emotion am I avoiding?
💭 How realistic is the worst case scenario?

Can you relate? Let me know what you're thinking in the comments! 👇

❤️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #selflove #selfcare #selfesteem #selfworth #anxiety #confidence #mindfulness #kindness #awareness
#motivation #procrastination #mindset #goals #goalsetting #believe #mentalhealthmatters #essex #newbeginning #loveothers #loveyourself

- To do anything really!

✍️ Write a list of all the things you could 'never' do and the answer as to why it's not possible.

If your list consists of:
📃 Because I'm not good enough
📃 Because I don't have what it takes
📃 Because some things don't change
📃 Because it will never work out
📃 Because I will fail

...then I invite you to get more curious as to where these thoughts come from. Sometimes we sabotage ourselves with our own self doubt and we never get the chance to see our true potential.

Ask yourself:
💭 What feels at risk?
💭 What proof do I need?
💭 When will I feel worthy?
💭 How can I take the chance?
💭 So what if I fail?!?
💭 What emotion am I avoiding?
💭 How realistic is the worst case scenario?

Can you relate? Let me know what you're thinking in the comments! 👇

❤️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #selflove #selfcare #selfesteem #selfworth #anxiety #confidence #mindfulness #kindness #awareness
#motivation #procrastination #mindset #goals #goalsetting #believe #mentalhealthmatters #essex #newbeginning #loveothers #loveyourself

Mad skills. Am I right? 🙃 I mean...

What's the likelihood of that?! You're one of the world's best identity thieves! 🕵️

🤡 You managed to trick them into giving you that promotion?
🤡 It was a fluke that you won?
🤡 It was pure luck you passed the exam?
🤡 It was a mistake you bagged the job?
🤡 They only clap to be polite?

On a serious note... Please know that sabotaging your success and waking up everyday with the genuine fear and dread of eventually failing/getting caught out is probably more common than you think. ❤️

The paradox of imposter syndrome is that as much as you fear getting things wrong you equally fear getting things right because... 👇

💡The more you accomplish the more you experience anxiety
💡The more you are shown you are good enough the more your belief system feels you aren't

Can you relate? 💭 If you struggle with imposter syndrome and want to address it in therapy feel free to get in touch! 💌

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #impostersyndrome #imposter #counsellor #selfworth #anxiety #confidence #selflove #selfcare #mindfulness #mumlife #essex #therapistsofinstagram #stressrelief #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #power #insight #awareness

Mad skills. Am I right? 🙃 I mean...

What's the likelihood of that?! You're one of the world's best identity thieves! 🕵️

🤡 You managed to trick them into giving you that promotion?
🤡 It was a fluke that you won?
🤡 It was pure luck you passed the exam?
🤡 It was a mistake you bagged the job?
🤡 They only clap to be polite?

On a serious note... Please know that sabotaging your success and waking up everyday with the genuine fear and dread of eventually failing/getting caught out is probably more common than you think. ❤️

The paradox of imposter syndrome is that as much as you fear getting things wrong you equally fear getting things right because... 👇

💡The more you accomplish the more you experience anxiety
💡The more you are shown you are good enough the more your belief system feels you aren't

Can you relate? 💭 If you struggle with imposter syndrome and want to address it in therapy feel free to get in touch! 💌

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #impostersyndrome #imposter #counsellor #selfworth #anxiety #confidence #selflove #selfcare #mindfulness #mumlife #essex #therapistsofinstagram #stressrelief #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #power #insight #awareness

How many roles do you play? 🤹

Maybe you're employed/self employed, a boss, manager or colleague, a SAHP, a mother/father, a daughter/son, a friend, a carer, an agony aunt...

We each have so many jobs and roles we try to fulfil on a daily basis and it is HARD. It is TIRING. And what makes it all the more difficult is when you're overstimulated, with all the tabs of your mind open, and someone assumes:

🤹 you're free to take on more work
🤹 you're not that busy
🤹 you have spare time
🤹 you can take 'insert responsibility here' on because you *usually* handle it

- or assumes anything about your life really, which let's face it... No one ever knows the full extent of because only YOU are living it 😬

And then in comes the self doubt and shame of...

🧠 'well, if it doesn't look like I'm busy I *should* be doing more!'
🧠 'I can't tell them no because that would be unkind'

... And ultimately what do we internalise? ='I'm not good enough' 💔

Final thought 💭
Setting boundaries with ourselves and knowing when enough is enough can feel like a chore in itself. I get that. It can be tempting to 'keep calm and carry on' because that is literally what society tells us to do! However, there is no shame in reaching your limits. You are not built to behave like a machine. You are always human first.

I bet if you wrote down all what you get done in a day you'd be surprised at how long that to do list is! 📃

❤️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #selflove #selfcare #selfesteem #selfworth #anxiety #confidence #mindfulness #bekind #boundaries #anxious #mentalhealthmatters
#kindness #awareness #mumlife #dadlife #boss #business #mindset #toxicpositivity #parenting #winning #success #peace

How many roles do you play? 🤹

Maybe you're employed/self employed, a boss, manager or colleague, a SAHP, a mother/father, a daughter/son, a friend, a carer, an agony aunt...

We each have so many jobs and roles we try to fulfil on a daily basis and it is HARD. It is TIRING. And what makes it all the more difficult is when you're overstimulated, with all the tabs of your mind open, and someone assumes:

🤹 you're free to take on more work
🤹 you're not that busy
🤹 you have spare time
🤹 you can take 'insert responsibility here' on because you *usually* handle it

- or assumes anything about your life really, which let's face it... No one ever knows the full extent of because only YOU are living it 😬

And then in comes the self doubt and shame of...

🧠 'well, if it doesn't look like I'm busy I *should* be doing more!'
🧠 'I can't tell them no because that would be unkind'

... And ultimately what do we internalise? ='I'm not good enough' 💔

Final thought 💭
Setting boundaries with ourselves and knowing when enough is enough can feel like a chore in itself. I get that. It can be tempting to 'keep calm and carry on' because that is literally what society tells us to do! However, there is no shame in reaching your limits. You are not built to behave like a machine. You are always human first.

I bet if you wrote down all what you get done in a day you'd be surprised at how long that to do list is! 📃

❤️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #selflove #selfcare #selfesteem #selfworth #anxiety #confidence #mindfulness #bekind #boundaries #anxious #mentalhealthmatters
#kindness #awareness #mumlife #dadlife #boss #business #mindset #toxicpositivity #parenting #winning #success #peace

Wanna know how I know?

↕️

You're still here and that's enough. 💖

I think I speak for all therapists when I say how proud and humbled we are to work with you. We know the hard work you put in to get through each day. We see you through your tough times, your emotional upheavals, downward spirals, light bulb moments and everything and anything inbetween.

Keep going, you really have got this. Even when you feel like you don't. I am always in awe of your bravery and of what an incredible job you're all doing.

Here's to another 🎉

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #therapist #counsellor #selflove #selfcare #mindfulness #wellbeing #anxiety #boundaries #confidence #newyear
#newyearsresolution #2024 #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters

Wanna know how I know?

↕️

You're still here and that's enough. 💖

I think I speak for all therapists when I say how proud and humbled we are to work with you. We know the hard work you put in to get through each day. We see you through your tough times, your emotional upheavals, downward spirals, light bulb moments and everything and anything inbetween.

Keep going, you really have got this. Even when you feel like you don't. I am always in awe of your bravery and of what an incredible job you're all doing.

Here's to another 🎉

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #therapist #counsellor #selflove #selfcare #mindfulness #wellbeing #anxiety #boundaries #confidence #newyear
#newyearsresolution #2024 #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters

Been popping up a lot in my client work recently so it got me thinking it might be worth sharing some over here, too!

What tool do you find most helpful? ⚙️💖

Any you could add?

Let me know in the comments! 👇

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #tools #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #essex

Been popping up a lot in my client work recently so it got me thinking it might be worth sharing some over here, too!

What tool do you find most helpful? ⚙️💖

Any you could add?

Let me know in the comments! 👇

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #tools #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #essex

There are two types of excitement that I know of in the world...

The 'pro' excitement that gives you your hopes, dreams, and the 'good' butterflies in your stomach... 🦋✨

And then there's the 'con' excitement that decides for you to back out, forget it, and gives you the knots and summersaults in your stomach... 😣

Fear can stop us in our tracks, if we let it. The fear of not fitting in, of being judged, of being seen, or embarrassed for trying something new 🙈

It takes bravery and risk to stand out and be different (also known as, yourself 🤪, because we are ALL unique underneath these protective identity layers 🎭)

If you could take the risk to be anything or anyone, who would you be? What would life feel like? What would change?

What's holding you back from standing out, from being noticed, from doing what you want and living your life fully? 💭

-

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #essex

There are two types of excitement that I know of in the world...

The 'pro' excitement that gives you your hopes, dreams, and the 'good' butterflies in your stomach... 🦋✨

And then there's the 'con' excitement that decides for you to back out, forget it, and gives you the knots and summersaults in your stomach... 😣

Fear can stop us in our tracks, if we let it. The fear of not fitting in, of being judged, of being seen, or embarrassed for trying something new 🙈

It takes bravery and risk to stand out and be different (also known as, yourself 🤪, because we are ALL unique underneath these protective identity layers 🎭)

If you could take the risk to be anything or anyone, who would you be? What would life feel like? What would change?

What's holding you back from standing out, from being noticed, from doing what you want and living your life fully? 💭

-

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #essex

❤️

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#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #peoplepleaser #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #bekindtoyourself
#kindnessmatters #loveyourself #selflove #selfworth #selfesteem #anxiety #anxious #counsellor #respect #selfrespect #support #mentalhealthmatters #essex #selfcare

❤️

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#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #peoplepleaser #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #bekindtoyourself
#kindnessmatters #loveyourself #selflove #selfworth #selfesteem #anxiety #anxious #counsellor #respect #selfrespect #support #mentalhealthmatters #essex #selfcare

5 reasons to switch off 📱

Something I've been doing recently! ❤️

1. You are not a robot and you are not programmed to keep going 🤖

2. Switching off is a great way to implement necessary self care 🧘

3. You are not designed to be everything for everyone every minute of every day 🤯

4. Switching off helps you to set boundaries with yourself which in turn helps you to set boundaries with others 💁

5. Switching off allows you to connect on a deeper level with yourself 🤗

How can you switch off this weekend? 📴

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

5 reasons to switch off 📱

Something I've been doing recently! ❤️

1. You are not a robot and you are not programmed to keep going 🤖

2. Switching off is a great way to implement necessary self care 🧘

3. You are not designed to be everything for everyone every minute of every day 🤯

4. Switching off helps you to set boundaries with yourself which in turn helps you to set boundaries with others 💁

5. Switching off allows you to connect on a deeper level with yourself 🤗

How can you switch off this weekend? 📴

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

It starts with you. ❤️

I feel that this message can be interpreted in LOTS of ways depending on your experiences, relationships and general perception of your world (here's where I get to use that big, fancy word - phenomenology 😎😉), so I'd love to know what you take from it.

Feel free to share your thoughts below ⬇️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #therapythoughts #relationships #mindfulness #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

It starts with you. ❤️

I feel that this message can be interpreted in LOTS of ways depending on your experiences, relationships and general perception of your world (here's where I get to use that big, fancy word - phenomenology 😎😉), so I'd love to know what you take from it.

Feel free to share your thoughts below ⬇️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #therapythoughts #relationships #mindfulness #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

Therapist warning signs 😬❌

I was in two minds as to whether this post would be beneficial or not, however unfortunately as I hear of so many horror stories in therapy I felt it was important to make a post to help you have an idea of the basic ethics of counselling.

Let me know your thoughts below 💭 and if you have ever experienced these red flags (I know I have) I want to assure you that this is not what therapy is about.

I know plenty of ethical (and bloody brilliant) therapists who are a credit to this profession - don't let one experience put you off from getting the support you deserve ❤️👇

1. Oversharing - you know more about your therapist than they know about you

2. Behaviour - they try to be your friend or act inappropriately towards you

3. Communication - you don't feel listened to, they speak over you or interrupt you

4. Confidentiality - they discuss their work with other clients in your sessions

5. Environment - if your session is or has been disrupted by intruders

6. Boundaries - are not clear, are not being upheld or have not been negotiated

7. Time - they have a habit of being late to your sessions or cancelling with short notice

8. Safety - if you feel judged, shamed or do not feel safe for any reason

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #rthics #boundaries #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #happiness #selflove #selfcare #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

Therapist warning signs 😬❌

I was in two minds as to whether this post would be beneficial or not, however unfortunately as I hear of so many horror stories in therapy I felt it was important to make a post to help you have an idea of the basic ethics of counselling.

Let me know your thoughts below 💭 and if you have ever experienced these red flags (I know I have) I want to assure you that this is not what therapy is about.

I know plenty of ethical (and bloody brilliant) therapists who are a credit to this profession - don't let one experience put you off from getting the support you deserve ❤️👇

1. Oversharing - you know more about your therapist than they know about you

2. Behaviour - they try to be your friend or act inappropriately towards you

3. Communication - you don't feel listened to, they speak over you or interrupt you

4. Confidentiality - they discuss their work with other clients in your sessions

5. Environment - if your session is or has been disrupted by intruders

6. Boundaries - are not clear, are not being upheld or have not been negotiated

7. Time - they have a habit of being late to your sessions or cancelling with short notice

8. Safety - if you feel judged, shamed or do not feel safe for any reason

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #rthics #boundaries #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #happiness #selflove #selfcare #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

So as you might have seen on my stories at the weekend, Saturday night was @letstalk.cic first ever quiz night hosted by myself and my fellow directors Val and L. (missing @mindset_byk
but she was there in spirit ❤️)

We raised an incredible £455 which will go towards the provision of a free mental health support group 🎉 and had such a lovely evening shared with the people we know and love as well as new friends we got to meet.

We also had amazing music from the very talented @musicality.with.val 🎶

We are so grateful to everyone who came along to have a good time and show their support for a cause that is so important to us - thank you, thank you, thank you! 🥰

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #essex #smallbusiness #teamwork #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #happiness #selflove #selfcare #confidence #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindset #growth #wellbeing #support #supportsmallbuisness #kindness

So as you might have seen on my stories at the weekend, Saturday night was @letstalk.cic first ever quiz night hosted by myself and my fellow directors Val and L. (missing @mindset_byk
but she was there in spirit ❤️)

We raised an incredible £455 which will go towards the provision of a free mental health support group 🎉 and had such a lovely evening shared with the people we know and love as well as new friends we got to meet.

We also had amazing music from the very talented @musicality.with.val 🎶

We are so grateful to everyone who came along to have a good time and show their support for a cause that is so important to us - thank you, thank you, thank you! 🥰

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #essex #smallbusiness #teamwork #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #happiness #selflove #selfcare #confidence #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindset #growth #wellbeing #support #supportsmallbuisness #kindness

A counsellor's vow 🌿
'I will always'

💚 I will always ensure the space between us is safe
💚 I will always be in awe of your courage and strength
💚 I will always be accepting of you
💚 I will always listen with deep empathy and respond without judgement
💚 I will always see you in your true light and I will not compare you to others
💚 I will always feel privileged for your time
💚 I will always feel honoured that you chose me to support you on your journey

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#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #peoplepleaser #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #happiness #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

A counsellor's vow 🌿
'I will always'

💚 I will always ensure the space between us is safe
💚 I will always be in awe of your courage and strength
💚 I will always be accepting of you
💚 I will always listen with deep empathy and respond without judgement
💚 I will always see you in your true light and I will not compare you to others
💚 I will always feel privileged for your time
💚 I will always feel honoured that you chose me to support you on your journey

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#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #peoplepleaser #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #happiness #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

Meet Humphry, our friendly Halloween scarecrow who has kept our home safe and community entertained this month 🎃

I know that for many people, Halloween can feel quite freeing and like an escape from reality. Halloween is an opportunity every year where you get to let go, enjoy yourself, and embrace a fun, scary, creative side of you.

It can be that chance to feel socially accepted without worrying about being judged for how you look. It can help those who lack confidence to create a new identity or give those who struggle with anxiety a mask of bravery for dressing up as someone else. 🎭

So, I'm wondering, if you can relate and you get that boost of self esteem from being someone other than you, how good would it be if you could feel this way all the time, and not just for one day or night?

What's holding you back from showing these true sides of you in your everyday life? Where you don't worry about being judged for being yourself. What would change in your behaviour? Would you feel happier?

Might be something to ponder on. 🧡

And remember that if Halloween is not your thing or you just don't feel up to it this year, it is perfectly acceptable to decline invitations and do what you need to do. Being cosy and warm on the sofa with snacks, a hot chocolate and a scary film sounds perfect to me! 🍫🍬📺

Happy Halloween everyone, stay safe! 👻🦇🕸️🖤

#halloween #trickortreat #scarecrow #dressup #anxiety #confidence #selfesteem #selfcare #selflove #selfhelp #selfdoubt #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #therapist #counsellor

Meet Humphry, our friendly Halloween scarecrow who has kept our home safe and community entertained this month 🎃

I know that for many people, Halloween can feel quite freeing and like an escape from reality. Halloween is an opportunity every year where you get to let go, enjoy yourself, and embrace a fun, scary, creative side of you.

It can be that chance to feel socially accepted without worrying about being judged for how you look. It can help those who lack confidence to create a new identity or give those who struggle with anxiety a mask of bravery for dressing up as someone else. 🎭

So, I'm wondering, if you can relate and you get that boost of self esteem from being someone other than you, how good would it be if you could feel this way all the time, and not just for one day or night?

What's holding you back from showing these true sides of you in your everyday life? Where you don't worry about being judged for being yourself. What would change in your behaviour? Would you feel happier?

Might be something to ponder on. 🧡

And remember that if Halloween is not your thing or you just don't feel up to it this year, it is perfectly acceptable to decline invitations and do what you need to do. Being cosy and warm on the sofa with snacks, a hot chocolate and a scary film sounds perfect to me! 🍫🍬📺

Happy Halloween everyone, stay safe! 👻🦇🕸️🖤

#halloween #trickortreat #scarecrow #dressup #anxiety #confidence #selfesteem #selfcare #selflove #selfhelp #selfdoubt #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #therapist #counsellor

📣 PSA to all people pleasers:

📣 Happiness is an inside job and it is an individual responsibility. You may influence how other people feel but you cannot control how they feel.

📣 You are not a bad person if you put your happiness first. You are not selfish for meeting your own needs, even if that means not doing the things that you think will make other people happy.

📣 As much as it is not your job to make other people happy, it is your job to take lead of your own happiness. I appreciate when reading this you might think, "yeah, easier said than done... Nothing really makes me happy"

So I invite you to share below your ideas of what you can do (or already do do) to feel happy. 🥰

Think:
💭 How do you help yourself feel better after a bad day?
💭 What brings you joy?
💭 What can you do to help yourself to feel good?

P. S. This could really help anyone struggling with this 💕

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #peoplepleaser #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #happiness #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

📣 PSA to all people pleasers:

📣 Happiness is an inside job and it is an individual responsibility. You may influence how other people feel but you cannot control how they feel.

📣 You are not a bad person if you put your happiness first. You are not selfish for meeting your own needs, even if that means not doing the things that you think will make other people happy.

📣 As much as it is not your job to make other people happy, it is your job to take lead of your own happiness. I appreciate when reading this you might think, "yeah, easier said than done... Nothing really makes me happy"

So I invite you to share below your ideas of what you can do (or already do do) to feel happy. 🥰

Think:
💭 How do you help yourself feel better after a bad day?
💭 What brings you joy?
💭 What can you do to help yourself to feel good?

P. S. This could really help anyone struggling with this 💕

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #peoplepleaser #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #happiness #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

👆 Does this sound like you?

It can be heartbreaking when everyone else around you can see all of the good in what you do, how successful you are, all of your ambition and determination and yet all you see is your faults, mistakes and shortcomings.

Let me ask you...

When will it feel like enough?
When will you feel satisfied?

If you don't know the answer, it's likely because you have never reached this level of fulfilment. That moment you keep chasing where you finally feel at peace.

Please remember that you are not alone. It can get better and there is support for you out there. 💙

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

👆 Does this sound like you?

It can be heartbreaking when everyone else around you can see all of the good in what you do, how successful you are, all of your ambition and determination and yet all you see is your faults, mistakes and shortcomings.

Let me ask you...

When will it feel like enough?
When will you feel satisfied?

If you don't know the answer, it's likely because you have never reached this level of fulfilment. That moment you keep chasing where you finally feel at peace.

Please remember that you are not alone. It can get better and there is support for you out there. 💙

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

It is familiar and it can feel like such a strong part of you that it is impossible to let go of.

When we are so used to being in a state of hyperarousal or hypoarousal (the highs and lows), it is extremely hard to break the patterns of your ways of thinking.

It becomes our inner instinct and it can give us a sense of control. We know what to expect. We understand the cycle and the routine. If we tried something new, wouldn't we feel unsafe?

I get it. It's not easy, but there is hope and there is healing. Sending love your way if you can relate. ❤️

#trauma #anxiety #windowoftolerance #healing #journey #mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #relationships #mindfulness #growth #wellbeing #bekind #mentalhealthmatters

It is familiar and it can feel like such a strong part of you that it is impossible to let go of.

When we are so used to being in a state of hyperarousal or hypoarousal (the highs and lows), it is extremely hard to break the patterns of your ways of thinking.

It becomes our inner instinct and it can give us a sense of control. We know what to expect. We understand the cycle and the routine. If we tried something new, wouldn't we feel unsafe?

I get it. It's not easy, but there is hope and there is healing. Sending love your way if you can relate. ❤️

#trauma #anxiety #windowoftolerance #healing #journey #mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #relationships #mindfulness #growth #wellbeing #bekind #mentalhealthmatters

What do keys symbolise to you? 🗝️

This is the set of keys to my new counselling room - which I officially moved into this week 😁

For me, keys have always symbolised new beginnings. The chance for change, to embark on new adventures and explore new opportunities.

I have been a bit quieter on here lately as I have been soaking up all of the feelings that this can bring. The mix of excitement, nervousness, hope and pride.

I feel so humbled to be able to sit with some of my clients again and to be meeting some new ones, too. It truly is such an honour to be a part of someone's journey and to watch them grow. Unlocking their own new beginnings 🔑💘

🗝️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #therapist #counsellor #reflection #growth #wellbeing #journey #newbeginning #emotions #thoughts #selfcare #selflove #selfhelp #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #therapeutic #relationships #mindfulness #kindness #process #support #healing #bekind #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters

What do keys symbolise to you? 🗝️

This is the set of keys to my new counselling room - which I officially moved into this week 😁

For me, keys have always symbolised new beginnings. The chance for change, to embark on new adventures and explore new opportunities.

I have been a bit quieter on here lately as I have been soaking up all of the feelings that this can bring. The mix of excitement, nervousness, hope and pride.

I feel so humbled to be able to sit with some of my clients again and to be meeting some new ones, too. It truly is such an honour to be a part of someone's journey and to watch them grow. Unlocking their own new beginnings 🔑💘

🗝️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #therapist #counsellor #reflection #growth #wellbeing #journey #newbeginning #emotions #thoughts #selfcare #selflove #selfhelp #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #therapeutic #relationships #mindfulness #kindness #process #support #healing #bekind #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters

Advice from a therapist: things to do after you have attended a counselling session 🌱

1. If it was a particularly tough session, let it be. Let go of any expectations of how you 'should' feel and accept how you do feel. Hold compassion for yourself as the flow of emotions wash over you.

2. Reflection is great. It is a powerful tool to encourage your self awareness, but not if it is forced. Take away any unnecessary self pressure for answers. Sometimes the session alone is enough.

3. Remember that therapy is hard work and it can take it's toll emotionally, mentally and physically. Invest in self care in whatever form that works best for you.

4. We are bound by confidentiality, but that doesn't mean that you are, too. It's a personal choice, but if someone who you trust knows you are seeing a therapist, talk it through with them. That is, of course, if you want to and after ensuring they are comfortable to listen.

5. Alternatively, if you benefit from it, journal. This can be brief notes of what you discussed or what felt significant. This can help you to gain insight into your provoked emotions and potentially give you further material for your following session. This can also help you continue your process and/or bracket your session/s from your everyday life.

💕

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

Advice from a therapist: things to do after you have attended a counselling session 🌱

1. If it was a particularly tough session, let it be. Let go of any expectations of how you 'should' feel and accept how you do feel. Hold compassion for yourself as the flow of emotions wash over you.

2. Reflection is great. It is a powerful tool to encourage your self awareness, but not if it is forced. Take away any unnecessary self pressure for answers. Sometimes the session alone is enough.

3. Remember that therapy is hard work and it can take it's toll emotionally, mentally and physically. Invest in self care in whatever form that works best for you.

4. We are bound by confidentiality, but that doesn't mean that you are, too. It's a personal choice, but if someone who you trust knows you are seeing a therapist, talk it through with them. That is, of course, if you want to and after ensuring they are comfortable to listen.

5. Alternatively, if you benefit from it, journal. This can be brief notes of what you discussed or what felt significant. This can help you to gain insight into your provoked emotions and potentially give you further material for your following session. This can also help you continue your process and/or bracket your session/s from your everyday life.

💕

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

When you begin to feel like you are not good enough and you are struggling to get through your day...

Take a breath and remember that:

You are loved.

You are important.

You matter.

You are going to be okay.

You belong here.

Always. ❤️

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#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #healing #youmatter

When you begin to feel like you are not good enough and you are struggling to get through your day...

Take a breath and remember that:

You are loved.

You are important.

You matter.

You are going to be okay.

You belong here.

Always. ❤️

-

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #healing #youmatter

Benefits of setting healthy boundaries: 🙅👇

1. More time and energy ⌚🦸‍♀️

Having healthy boundaries such as...

🚫 Stopping when you need to rest
🚫 Not agreeing to do overtime
🚫 Saying what you really mean
🚫 Disengaging from drama

Means...

❤️ You can become more honest and authentic
❤️ You have the space to take better care of yourself
❤️ You're less likely to suffer from emotional exhaustion
❤️ You're more likely to be able to do the things you enjoy without guilt

2. Less conflict in your relationships 👩‍❤️‍👩

Having clear boundaries with others sets the tone for your relationship. Healthy boundaries instils safety, improves your communication skills and lessens the likelihood of you withholding your emotions and causing yourself emotional distress. You are more likely to have you needs met when you share what is and is not acceptable.

3. Improved self-esteem and confidence ☺️

The thought of beginning to implement boundaries can be scary, and I fully appreciate the strength this can take. Any change can take bravery, courage and vulnerability. As much as it can feel 'bad' - it is something to feel proud of. Healthy boundaries encourage you to have deeper self respect and recognise your worth.

4. Gained self awareness 🙏

To set healthy boundaries you have to take as step back from your usual behaviours and thinking process and really think about what this will mean for you.

Ask yourself: 👇

💭 What do healthy boundaries look like for me?

💭 What changes would I like to make?

💓

#mentalhealth #boundaries #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

Benefits of setting healthy boundaries: 🙅👇

1. More time and energy ⌚🦸‍♀️

Having healthy boundaries such as...

🚫 Stopping when you need to rest
🚫 Not agreeing to do overtime
🚫 Saying what you really mean
🚫 Disengaging from drama

Means...

❤️ You can become more honest and authentic
❤️ You have the space to take better care of yourself
❤️ You're less likely to suffer from emotional exhaustion
❤️ You're more likely to be able to do the things you enjoy without guilt

2. Less conflict in your relationships 👩‍❤️‍👩

Having clear boundaries with others sets the tone for your relationship. Healthy boundaries instils safety, improves your communication skills and lessens the likelihood of you withholding your emotions and causing yourself emotional distress. You are more likely to have you needs met when you share what is and is not acceptable.

3. Improved self-esteem and confidence ☺️

The thought of beginning to implement boundaries can be scary, and I fully appreciate the strength this can take. Any change can take bravery, courage and vulnerability. As much as it can feel 'bad' - it is something to feel proud of. Healthy boundaries encourage you to have deeper self respect and recognise your worth.

4. Gained self awareness 🙏

To set healthy boundaries you have to take as step back from your usual behaviours and thinking process and really think about what this will mean for you.

Ask yourself: 👇

💭 What do healthy boundaries look like for me?

💭 What changes would I like to make?

💓

#mentalhealth #boundaries #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

Traits Of A: People Pleaser 👩‍❤️‍👩🤍

1. You tailor your beliefs, behaviour and personality to accommodate someone else 🦎

2. You try to live up to others expectations of you and make yourself small to fit in 👀

3. You avoid conflict at all costs even if it negatively impacts your mental health 🧠

4. You struggle to access your own needs, wants and identity 🙇‍♀️❔

5. Your worth depends on the validation and approval of other people 🧑🏾‍🤝‍🧑🏻👭

6. You struggle to create real, genuine relationships. Everything stays at surface level 💬

Does this sound like you?

People pleasing is a common human instinct. It can be a symptom of low self esteem and insecurity ❤️

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#mentalhealth #boundaries #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

Traits Of A: People Pleaser 👩‍❤️‍👩🤍

1. You tailor your beliefs, behaviour and personality to accommodate someone else 🦎

2. You try to live up to others expectations of you and make yourself small to fit in 👀

3. You avoid conflict at all costs even if it negatively impacts your mental health 🧠

4. You struggle to access your own needs, wants and identity 🙇‍♀️❔

5. Your worth depends on the validation and approval of other people 🧑🏾‍🤝‍🧑🏻👭

6. You struggle to create real, genuine relationships. Everything stays at surface level 💬

Does this sound like you?

People pleasing is a common human instinct. It can be a symptom of low self esteem and insecurity ❤️

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#mentalhealth #boundaries #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

A little life update:

For those of you who keep on top of my instagram stories - this is the exciting news that I have been waiting to share! 😁

I am all set up and ready to go with my very own counselling room!! 🎉 I am now offering face to face sessions in Maylandsea, Essex 🌅

I will still be available for online and telephone sessions, but I am so excited to get back to working in person with my clients ❤️

This is a little milestone for me as I have been keeping an eye out for a suitable office space for a loooong time, so when this opportunity came up it definitely felt like it was meant to be 🥰

I still have some spaces available for counselling so if anyone is interested in working with me, please take a look at my website for my contact details ☺️

www.ashleighwestcounselling.com

❤️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #room #essex #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

A little life update:

For those of you who keep on top of my instagram stories - this is the exciting news that I have been waiting to share! 😁

I am all set up and ready to go with my very own counselling room!! 🎉 I am now offering face to face sessions in Maylandsea, Essex 🌅

I will still be available for online and telephone sessions, but I am so excited to get back to working in person with my clients ❤️

This is a little milestone for me as I have been keeping an eye out for a suitable office space for a loooong time, so when this opportunity came up it definitely felt like it was meant to be 🥰

I still have some spaces available for counselling so if anyone is interested in working with me, please take a look at my website for my contact details ☺️

www.ashleighwestcounselling.com

❤️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #room #essex #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

20 ideas for self care: 💖👇

1. Take time out ⌚
2. Contact someone who makes you feel good 🥰
3. Get creative and messy 👨‍🍳
4. Don't overbook 🗓️🖊️
5. Take a walk 🚶‍♀️🌳
6. Go to bed 🛌💤
7. Drink your favourite drink ☕
8. Start a new hobby 🤺🏄
9. Exercise 🏋️🚴
10. Switch off 🧘‍♂️💆
11. Cosy up in your favourite blanket 🧣
12. Make time for what makes you happy ☺️
13. Paint/draw 🎨👨‍🎨
14. Make fun plans ✈️👨‍🎤
15. Say no more 🙅‍♂️🚫
16. Get fresh air 🌬️
17. Cook your favourite meal 🥘🍴
18. Listen to music 🎧
19. Join a new class 👨‍🏫
20. Celebrate your wins 🦸‍♀️🎉

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#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

20 ideas for self care: 💖👇

1. Take time out ⌚
2. Contact someone who makes you feel good 🥰
3. Get creative and messy 👨‍🍳
4. Don't overbook 🗓️🖊️
5. Take a walk 🚶‍♀️🌳
6. Go to bed 🛌💤
7. Drink your favourite drink ☕
8. Start a new hobby 🤺🏄
9. Exercise 🏋️🚴
10. Switch off 🧘‍♂️💆
11. Cosy up in your favourite blanket 🧣
12. Make time for what makes you happy ☺️
13. Paint/draw 🎨👨‍🎨
14. Make fun plans ✈️👨‍🎤
15. Say no more 🙅‍♂️🚫
16. Get fresh air 🌬️
17. Cook your favourite meal 🥘🍴
18. Listen to music 🎧
19. Join a new class 👨‍🏫
20. Celebrate your wins 🦸‍♀️🎉

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#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

How to take care of yourself when you are feeling overwhelmed:

🌅 1. Remember that you cannot pour from an empty cup and start to put aside some time for you, to do the things that you enjoy to help you relax

🌅 2. Check in with yourself and ask whether your stressors are all yours to carry. Are you taking on more responsibility than you need to be?

🌅 3. Engage in an activity that helps you to release your emotions and regulate your nervous system. This could be: exercise, breathing techniques, journaling, painting, etc

🌅 4. Reach out to your support system and let them help you through it. Remember that it is okay to talk it out with someone safe who you trust

🌅 5. Remember that this feeling will pass. It will not last forever. Be gentle, kind and allow yourself to ride through the waves of your emotions. Everything will be okay 💖

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How to take care of yourself when you are feeling overwhelmed:

🌅 1. Remember that you cannot pour from an empty cup and start to put aside some time for you, to do the things that you enjoy to help you relax

🌅 2. Check in with yourself and ask whether your stressors are all yours to carry. Are you taking on more responsibility than you need to be?

🌅 3. Engage in an activity that helps you to release your emotions and regulate your nervous system. This could be: exercise, breathing techniques, journaling, painting, etc

🌅 4. Reach out to your support system and let them help you through it. Remember that it is okay to talk it out with someone safe who you trust

🌅 5. Remember that this feeling will pass. It will not last forever. Be gentle, kind and allow yourself to ride through the waves of your emotions. Everything will be okay 💖

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When people are mad at us it can bring up a lot...

It can make us feel:
👉 Panic
👉 Guilt
👉 Anxiety
👉 Distress
👉 Shame
👉 Scared
👉 Lethargic
👉 Sick

Just to name a few 💔

Sometimes it can make us feel like we need to apologise profusely and do everything we can to fix it and make it right. 🗣️

It can keep us up at night on edge, feeling desperate and like we are spiralling. 🌪️

It can make us retrack our conversations/interactions and examine every detail until we figure out where we went wrong. 🧐

And ultimately it can ignite that negative self belief that you are not good enough. 💔

The most important thing to remember is:

This is a reflection of their feelings, not a reflection of who you are. ❤️

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#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

When people are mad at us it can bring up a lot...

It can make us feel:
👉 Panic
👉 Guilt
👉 Anxiety
👉 Distress
👉 Shame
👉 Scared
👉 Lethargic
👉 Sick

Just to name a few 💔

Sometimes it can make us feel like we need to apologise profusely and do everything we can to fix it and make it right. 🗣️

It can keep us up at night on edge, feeling desperate and like we are spiralling. 🌪️

It can make us retrack our conversations/interactions and examine every detail until we figure out where we went wrong. 🧐

And ultimately it can ignite that negative self belief that you are not good enough. 💔

The most important thing to remember is:

This is a reflection of their feelings, not a reflection of who you are. ❤️

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#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #anxious #feelings #thoughts #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

So this was me Wednesday morning, checking my camera was working and quickly swigging my tea before I clicked the link to begin my CPCAB Level 5 Diploma. ☕📷

It was SO good to get back in to a classroom environment (will have to adjust to it being virtual!) and meet so many like minded counsellors and therapists with similar interests! ☺️

Really excited for this new little adventure of mine and can't wait to make those connections and learn in depth about attachment theory ❤️

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#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #learning #education #cpcab #training

So this was me Wednesday morning, checking my camera was working and quickly swigging my tea before I clicked the link to begin my CPCAB Level 5 Diploma. ☕📷

It was SO good to get back in to a classroom environment (will have to adjust to it being virtual!) and meet so many like minded counsellors and therapists with similar interests! ☺️

Really excited for this new little adventure of mine and can't wait to make those connections and learn in depth about attachment theory ❤️

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#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #learning #education #cpcab #training

I get it.

When your go-to is a 'yes':
👉 Every time someone asks you for help
👉 Every time someone asks you to work late
👉 Every time someone asks you to do anything, really

...then the thought and fear of saying 'no' is enough to stop you from even contemplating it. ❌

... But have you ever thought of what the outcome could be if you did say no? 🤔

Not the outcome of how uncomfortable and awkward you would feel...

(by the way it's totally normal to feel like this when it's completely out of your character!)

And not the panicked internal thoughts of:
💭 'but they'll want a reason why I said no'
💭 'I'll have to explain myself'
💭 'I'm not good at excuses'

- The outcome after all of these racing thoughts have passed. How your life could look, how your stress levels could change, how much more time, space and energy you could have?

Just something to keep in mind. You can ALWAYS say no. Especially if it brings you peace. ❤️

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I get it.

When your go-to is a 'yes':
👉 Every time someone asks you for help
👉 Every time someone asks you to work late
👉 Every time someone asks you to do anything, really

...then the thought and fear of saying 'no' is enough to stop you from even contemplating it. ❌

... But have you ever thought of what the outcome could be if you did say no? 🤔

Not the outcome of how uncomfortable and awkward you would feel...

(by the way it's totally normal to feel like this when it's completely out of your character!)

And not the panicked internal thoughts of:
💭 'but they'll want a reason why I said no'
💭 'I'll have to explain myself'
💭 'I'm not good at excuses'

- The outcome after all of these racing thoughts have passed. How your life could look, how your stress levels could change, how much more time, space and energy you could have?

Just something to keep in mind. You can ALWAYS say no. Especially if it brings you peace. ❤️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

Your worth does not depend on: 👇

🚫 Your relationship status
🚫 Your weight
🚫 Your appearance
🚫 Your job title
🚫 Your salary
🚫 Your popularity
🚫 Your likes
🚫 Your followers
🚫 Anyone who is not you

It all comes from within you. ❤️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

Your worth does not depend on: 👇

🚫 Your relationship status
🚫 Your weight
🚫 Your appearance
🚫 Your job title
🚫 Your salary
🚫 Your popularity
🚫 Your likes
🚫 Your followers
🚫 Anyone who is not you

It all comes from within you. ❤️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

Do you want to know what one of the biggest challenges in life is?

It's moving through fear.

If every fibre of your being is waving a red flag, telling you that you will fail, or be exposed, or that you are not good enough, smart enough, or that everyone will laugh... then let's be honest, you're going to want to run, hide and avoid. 🙈

It is SO much easier to put ourselves in protective bubble wrap, believing that we are not capable of doing what we really wish to than to take those risks of emotional devastation, pain and disappointment. 💔

Let's say you want to take dance classes but you're worried you'll get the steps wrong and everyone will notice and laugh, so you choose to not take the class. 💃

Let's say you want to tell someone your feelings but you're scared they'll reject you and leave you feeling humiliated, so you keep quiet. 🤫

Let's say you want to start setting some boundaries but you're worried of the potential backlash and confrontation that may come, so you choose not to. 🙇‍♂️

Do you spot the cycle? 🔁

It all comes back to fear and it is NORMAL to have fear. Fear is our minds way of keeping us safe, however, fear is also what is holding you back from growth and experience.

We have NO way of telling where our experiences will take us until we take that leap of faith to try. We cannot predict that we will mess up the steps or that we will face rejection or confrontation. 🔮

We get so wrapped up in our own scripts that we forget that we have the chance to write new endings. 📝

If you could momentarily box up your fears, self doubts and self criticism - what is it that you really want from life?

Start to make that change. It's only you that's holding yourself back. ❤️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #quote #boundaries

Do you want to know what one of the biggest challenges in life is?

It's moving through fear.

If every fibre of your being is waving a red flag, telling you that you will fail, or be exposed, or that you are not good enough, smart enough, or that everyone will laugh... then let's be honest, you're going to want to run, hide and avoid. 🙈

It is SO much easier to put ourselves in protective bubble wrap, believing that we are not capable of doing what we really wish to than to take those risks of emotional devastation, pain and disappointment. 💔

Let's say you want to take dance classes but you're worried you'll get the steps wrong and everyone will notice and laugh, so you choose to not take the class. 💃

Let's say you want to tell someone your feelings but you're scared they'll reject you and leave you feeling humiliated, so you keep quiet. 🤫

Let's say you want to start setting some boundaries but you're worried of the potential backlash and confrontation that may come, so you choose not to. 🙇‍♂️

Do you spot the cycle? 🔁

It all comes back to fear and it is NORMAL to have fear. Fear is our minds way of keeping us safe, however, fear is also what is holding you back from growth and experience.

We have NO way of telling where our experiences will take us until we take that leap of faith to try. We cannot predict that we will mess up the steps or that we will face rejection or confrontation. 🔮

We get so wrapped up in our own scripts that we forget that we have the chance to write new endings. 📝

If you could momentarily box up your fears, self doubts and self criticism - what is it that you really want from life?

Start to make that change. It's only you that's holding yourself back. ❤️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness #quote #boundaries

Lovely views at RHS Garden Hyde Hall 🌳🌷🌻

Grateful that I get to enjoy places like this not too far from home. If it wasn't for the unbearable heat that we had over the weekend, I probably would have enjoyed it a lot more! 🥵

I think it can be hard for some to find the time to get outdoors because we all generally lead such busy on-the-go lifestyles, constantly juggling one thing to the next 🤹 but it is so important for both our physical and mental health.

I came home that day feeling very clammy (to put it nicely!) but also relaxed and calm, noticably less stressed, with an overall improved mood. 🧘‍♀️

What's your favourite thing about being outdoors? 🌞☁️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #relationships #mindfulness #nature #outdoors #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters

Lovely views at RHS Garden Hyde Hall 🌳🌷🌻

Grateful that I get to enjoy places like this not too far from home. If it wasn't for the unbearable heat that we had over the weekend, I probably would have enjoyed it a lot more! 🥵

I think it can be hard for some to find the time to get outdoors because we all generally lead such busy on-the-go lifestyles, constantly juggling one thing to the next 🤹 but it is so important for both our physical and mental health.

I came home that day feeling very clammy (to put it nicely!) but also relaxed and calm, noticably less stressed, with an overall improved mood. 🧘‍♀️

What's your favourite thing about being outdoors? 🌞☁️

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #relationships #mindfulness #nature #outdoors #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters

10 signs of a good therapist:

👩‍🦰 1. You look forward to your sessions
👨‍🦱 2. You know the limits and boundaries of the therapeutic relationship
👩‍🦳 3. Your therapist is happy to answer any questions you have
👱 4. You feel safe and trusting of your therapist
👩‍🦱 5. You believe that your therapist has your best interests at heart
👨‍🦰 6. Your therapist has completed sufficient professional training
👱‍♀️ 7. You view your therapist as reliable and dependable
👨‍🦳 8. You feel accepted, valued and respected by your therapist
👱‍♂️ 9. You feel a genuine connection with your therapist
👩‍🦰 10. You feel that you are benefiting from your therapy

What would you add to the list? 📃💭

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10 signs of a good therapist:

👩‍🦰 1. You look forward to your sessions
👨‍🦱 2. You know the limits and boundaries of the therapeutic relationship
👩‍🦳 3. Your therapist is happy to answer any questions you have
👱 4. You feel safe and trusting of your therapist
👩‍🦱 5. You believe that your therapist has your best interests at heart
👨‍🦰 6. Your therapist has completed sufficient professional training
👱‍♀️ 7. You view your therapist as reliable and dependable
👨‍🦳 8. You feel accepted, valued and respected by your therapist
👱‍♂️ 9. You feel a genuine connection with your therapist
👩‍🦰 10. You feel that you are benefiting from your therapy

What would you add to the list? 📃💭

#mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #therapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapeutic #selflove #selfcare #selfdoubt #selfesteem #confidence #anxiety #relationships #mindfulness #bekind #growth #wellbeing #mentalhealthmatters #kindness

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